Stamping the Passport: First Stop, Dominican Republic Pt. I

Good summa time vibes have to consist of all or at least one the following in order for your summer to be litty.

1. The Perfect Fits

2. Good Hair

3. A Bae. (new or old, just someone for those warm, summer nights to talk with or..whatevah)

4. Bomb Vacay(whether near or far, a place to relax your mind and let your conscience be free)

Well. My summer thus far has only had one of the above. My hair and fits are cute but pretty regular and a bae?! Chile, that's a post for another day. But bomb vacation, yea I did that! Not only was I able to travel but I went on my first international trip to the Dominican Republic with my uncle and cousins on a family vacation.

 We stayed at the Riu Bambu Hotel in Punta Cana. I've never been to an all inclusive resort before so I don't have anything to compare my experience to but it was really nice. Food and dranks all day and night that I don't have to pay for.. YES PLEASE!!

I don't know if it was the palm trees or the fact the I was on a foreign beach but I immediately fell in love. I didn't fall in love with being hustled on the beach but hey, I cant knock it.

This guy really put an iguana on my head, parrots in my palms ...

then charged me!!!

I went parasailing for the first time ever. I thought I would terrified but it was surprisingly at peace.


Our fourth day there, we went on an excursion at La Hacienda Park which was about an hour away from the resort. We zip lined at the highest peak of 657 feet from the ground. I really tried to capture this moment but being that high was too intense for me. And if that wasn't enough I had to bungee jump maybe 20 ft to the ground. I'm proud of myself for facing my fear of heights. A fear that I didn't tell my family that I had especially since I was the main one convincing people to not be afraid. #AriesIsh However, I don't see myself doing that activity again. I rode horseback on a beautiful brown and white horse named Tobacco who deviated from the trail a few times to eat grass but other than that he was cool.

Me & Tobacco

We went on a safari trip that wasn't really a safari or at least what I would have expected. It consisted of 1 cow, wild chickens, 2 goats and a family dog that I accidentally stepped on but in my defense, he was very small and there was like 30 people in a little space. Then we  drove the ATV's through mud trials to the Anamuya River where we were able to swim and cool off before heading back to the ranch for an authentic Dominican lunch at local restaurant. We were able to see how they make fresh, hot cocoa from actual cocoa nuts off the tree. . We were at the park for about 8 hours and did 7 excursions for $99. Not only a great deal but it was worth the entire experience.

Anamuya River

Milking the cow. Ironically my first time

On the way back to the hotel we stopped at a bodega in one of the neighborhoods. I just got Doritos and a grape soda but what got me excited was being about to trading one of my US dollars for a Dominican peso. I've decided that every time I visit a new country my keep sake will be the local currency.

Dominican peso

The rest of the vacation was trips to the beach, drinking, eating, drinking, dancing, drinking, arguments, and more drinking. Good times!
The people were beautiful. The men were gorgeous and the island was breathe-taking with mountains hills and coconut tress everywhere.

 Mountainous landscape

The air really seemed to agree with my chemistry because babyyyyyy I came back glowing.

There would be a few things that I would suggest when traveling over seas to an all inclusive resort BUT for the sake of time I'll make a separate post about that so look out for Part 2.

I'm looking forward to more stamps very soon ;)

KINGdom

KINGdom by Krystal Schey




He's a good man
Tainted enough to be real
Yet genuine enough to be deemed pure
I wash myself in him
My flaws look halfway decent when moisturized with his aura
He's the closest thing to godly I've ever had this side of Heaven

Queen Bey, Body Acceptance and Breaking these Generational Curses

Can I just talk about how Queen Mother, Beyoncé that is, has been giving me life this year. From her classic performance at Coachella, The Carter's album and now her latest interview in the September issue of Vogue Magazine. She's just all around phenomenal. I mean, I don't really like to "stan" for celebrities because after all, they are mere humans just like the rest of us but not for nothing, Bey has been making me so proud to be a black woman.

We don't have to recap on Coachella. Mutha shut it down and if you ain't know please google her performance. Just her entrance alone was iconic.

The Carters album is a constant bop for me. From the pride for our culture in Black Effect, forgiveness and redemption in Love Happy (my favorite), The sultry seductive vibes in Summer to the cloth talk on Boss. Her beautiful, sultry range and Jay's lyrical storytelling keeps them in heavy rotation on my playlist.

And now, Beyoncé's feature in Vogue makes me love her so much more. Let me just say this before I begin, she didn't say anything different than what we normally hear about body acceptance and self love but what I appreciate about Beyoncé is that ever since her album Lemonade, she has been very open with us (especially more than she needs to be) about her family and self esteem struggles as a result of infidelity in her marriage and past traumas. During her interview, the theme of honesty is the same but the tone is different. Obviously, she's in a better space. Her marriage is in a healing place, their family is growing with the edition of the twins, Rumi and Sir and they're currently on their world tour OTR II.
While life right now is great, Bey shared her pregnancy struggles with toxemia while pregnant with the twins which lead her to have an emergency C-section. She talked about accepting the changes that her body has undergone and even her contentment with her FUPA for the time being. For those who do not know what a fupa is, that is the fat located in the lower abdomen also known as the fat upper pu**y area. I can't really identify with fupa love right now because mine wont let me be great LOL but I'm working on her for a more healthier,happier me. She talked about intentionally giving herself self-love and care during her recovery helping her to accept her new curves. Seriously though, you know I promote self adoration so I loved her transparency.

She also spoke on opening doors for talent that follows her like the photographer that she chose for the Vogue shoot, 23 year old Tyler Mitchell. The first African American to shoot for the cover of Vogue ever. Yaaaasssssssss!

Tyler Mitchell

My favorite part of the article is when she talked about her family history. I was moved to tears when she said her lineage was one of "broken relationships and mistrust". I almost shouted right there.  When she said " I pray that I am able to break generational curses in my family and that my children will have less complicated lives." I felt that on a spiritual level. While she was referring to the disconnect in respect, honesty and communication between man and woman in her genealogy, this reminded me of my generational hardships that not only plague me but my parents, brother and extended family as well. Recently, the patterns that have been a direct effect of negative habits, mental and emotionally abuse that has intertwined itself within the history of my family, is something that I'm no longer willing to accept. I'm not a doctor so I'm not qualified to "fix" anybody EXCEPT my own thoughts and actions. That's was my problem. I always wanted to mend what was wrong by overcompensating for what I thought love and family should be vs. what I actually experienced but no one can heal in toxicity and delusion. Traits that I WILL NOT pass down to my babies either.


Visit www.Vogue.com to read Beyoncé in Her Own Words: Her Life, Her Body, Her Heritage

"I’m in a place of gratitude right now.

I am accepting of who I am. I will continue to explore every inch of my soul and every part of my artistry.

I want to learn more, teach more, and live in full.

I’ve worked long and hard to be able to get to a place where I can choose to surround myself with what fulfills and inspires me."

Thoro Gem Thursday: Dr.Arlene A Asante

Never apologize for being DOPE

To say that this week's Thoro Gem feature is dope would be a huge understatement. She's a Morgan State University Graduate. Dentist. Inspirational Speaker. Youth Mentor and just finished her 2nd year at Howard University for dentistry not to mention a lover of God which is reflective in her life's work.


Dr. Arlene Asante is the founder of EAGER, Inc. a youth mentoring organization based out of Baltimore, Maryland. Her organization, established in 2009, was created to empower young girls and expose them to resources and tools that will assist in furthering their growth as well as to prosper socially and personally.

As mentioned earlier, Arlene is also a dentist and is currently in Saint Elizabeth, Jamaica on what she has coined as the  #JamaicaMissionsTrip, where her and a team of Howard student dentists are servicing the dental care needs of the natives. It's really something when your profession is your gift and passion that the world not only gets to witness but benefits from too!

Her path is definitely one of inspiration. I often find my self saying "Yaaaaaass Siiiiisss" while watching her live her best life.

Driven, Aspiring, and Bighearted, Arlene you truly are a thoro gem 

To learn more about EAGER inc and find out about future events, please visit the website at www.eagerinc.org


IG: @arleneasante
      @eagerinc

Hello Brooklyn!

The sound of Salsa music, horns honking and loud conversations woke me up out of my sleep. The entire week had been fun-filled and this was my first comfortable rest. I looked out of the deep-paned windows and saw the sun beaming off the brick wall on the building across the street. I'm use to quieter Sundays but I had no complaints. It was actually quiet refreshing. This weekend I took a drive to New York to visit my big sister, Nicky, who lives in the Crown Heights section of Brooklyn. I live in South Jersey so the drive wasn't too bad. My sisters memory foam mattress is the best mattress I've slept on in a long time and considering the fact that I have one rises some questions for me. Like where the hell she got hers from?! Hanging from a rod in front of the windows is her collection of purses. It's a healthy amount. Not like the shameful trunk on the floor of my closet full of purses most of which I don't even wear. The light grey that decorates her walls reminds me of my own room except her's is much more spacious, neater and tranquil. I felt like that little sister that prefers her big sister's things more than her own. And she was such a gracious host. Besides sharing her room and tee shirt, since I forgot something to sleep in( true Krystal fashion) she shared her city with me as well.This wasn't my first time visiting Brooklyn but it was my first time experiencing it.


My first night there we uber'd from Brooklyn to Harlem to eat at Solomon and Kuff, a Caribbean restaurant down by the Hudson River. It was a bit pricy but hey that's New York for you plus the food was ah-ma-zing. I had the ox tails, rice and beans and sweet plantains. You definitely get what you pay for in taste, portion and ambiance. After dinner, we took a stroll by the river where there were children playing, couples enjoying each other, older folks listening to music, young ladies striking their best pose for the camera and of course the smell of loud was ever present. On the way home, she pointed out other places in Harlem she wants to visit with me when I come back and I was excited and bright-eyeded like a true tourist.


Once we got back to her apartment we relaxed for about an hour and than headed out to Bed Stuy to listen to DJ Rich Medina's set featuring Lady Alma at C'mon Everybody. Now, I wasn't familiar with either artist but they tore it down. The whole house music scene is its own culture.

 Lady Alma

Blacks, Whites, Asians, the hip, the nerdy, the polished and the "little ruff around the edges" were all in attendance jamming with one goal in mind. To experience a good vibe; and that it was. Neither one of us are use to hanging out too late anymore so by 2am the only dancing we wanted to do was in our dreams.




In the morning, after we both got ourselves together, we took an uber to Sweet Chick on Bedford Ave to have brunch. There was a 30 minute wait so to kill time we walked around to check out the brownstones in Park Slope. I wanted to scream out "And stay off my stoop" so bad. 🤣 Shout out to Crooklyn.

Back at Sweet Chicks, it looked like a scene out of the HBO series Insecure. The crowd was mostly hip, black millennials and the food was great. I had the shrimp and grits with a grape soda (ode to my blackness LOL) Nicky had the ricotta pancakes with a side of bacon and lemonade. After brunch I headed back home to my baby Jersey but my BK visit with sissy was everything.

I really wish I would have taken more picture because my weekend getaway sparked my new hobby idea. TRAVELING!! Whether its long distant like my recent vacation to the Dominican Republic (blog post coming soon) or a local staycation, I want to travel and see this world.


Stayed tuned!!

Me and Nicky



Thoro Gem Thrusday: Theresa Patricia Okoumou

"Well-behaved women seldom make history"

-Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

Here's the thing, I never encourage breaking the law(clears throat) but sometiiiiiimes, you gotta say to hell with the rules and take a stand......or sit.


And that is just what this week's TGT feature did. Yesterday, July 4th, wearing a "Trump Care Makes Us Sick" tee shirt, jeans and pink sneakers, Theresa Patricia Okoumou climb onto the base of the Statue of Liberty and planted herself at the hem of Lady Liberty's dress in protest of the separation of migrant families and declared she would not come down until all the children are released.


Theresa Okoumou,a Congolese immigrant is a member of the organization Rise and Resist, who was also on site to protest ICE. After nearly three hours, officers detained an unharmed Theresa and she is due to appear in the Manhattan Federal Court to face possible misdemeanor charges such as trespassing, disorderly conduct and violating national park regulations.


Personally, I see nothing wrong with the action she took. I'm glad that she wasn't injured or worst because that's always a factor but how is her stand for justice any different from the March on Selma, lunch-counter sit ins, Bus Boycotts, and most recently the removal of the confederate flag by Bree Newsome who climbed a 30 foot steel pole to remove the banner. How Sway? How is Theresa any different?  When it comes to an act that takes place to STOP an inhumane practice and/or treatment, like I said earlier in the post, sometimes you gotta say to hell with the rules and take a stand. My only question is how the hell did she get up there?


Strong and brave in the face of adversity, Theresa Patricia Okoumou, you truly are a thoro gem!

Thoro Gem Thrusday: What About Our Daughters

"Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women who have her back"- Unknown

So yall know I'm all about loving on and encouraging women especially with other women who have the same goal in mind because there is really nothing we cannot do when we support each other. That's the power in numbers. Recently I learned about the organization, What About Our Daughters which is based out of Burlington County, NJ. Their movement was created to empower young girls into becoming fruitful, well-rounded women someday.


It's often emphasized that the lack of a male presents in the life of a young person is extremely detrimental especially during their developmental years however, the lack of a woman's presence has the same effect. That type of love and guidance is crucial to their emotional, social and mental growth. I personally know ladies that have lost their mothers or the relationship with their mother is broken. Although most of them are successful and amazing mothers now themselves, there's still that avoid of not having their mom around at times in your life where it was needed the most. Even in my own life, my mother and I are extremely close now but that wasn't always the case. Fortunately for us, we did our on work to repair our relationship through talking, inventiveness and forgiveness. Sadly, that's not every girls story but THANK GOD for organizations like this.


I cant wait to see what is in store for this movement and the lives that will be impacted. I'm a firm believer in reaping and sowing and I'm sure that they will reap greatly.

To learn more about the organization please check them out at www.ourdaughters.org
IG: whataboutourdaughters_